The Spirituality of the Love Languages: Quality Time #232

Ever feel like your soul just craves deeper, more meaningful moments—but life seems determined to keep rushing you along? If you've ever longed for genuine connection, whether it's with your partner, your family, or your Spirit Guides, you might be speaking the love language of Quality Time.

In this special episode , we're exploring Quality Time from a fresh, spiritual perspective. Making intentional space to truly connect can help you feel more aligned and deeply loved—not just by others, but by the Universe itself. We'll chat about effective, uplifting ways you can infuse your life with these richer moments.

In episode five of our special five-part series on the spirituality of the the Love Languages, we're exploring Quality Time.  By learning to honor your need for deep presence, you'll awaken your highest quality of energy. 

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Transcript

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Music. Welcome to the Modern Life and Spirit Podcast where we explore spiritual topics relevant to today's world. Your hosts, certified psychic medium Christina Wooten and Reiki master teacher Robert Wooten, break down how to work with spirit to create more positive growth in your life. Consider this podcast your go to spiritual resource for navigating the modern world.

Christina Wooten: 2:06

Hey there, kinderd spirits. It's me. Christina Wooten, certified psychic medium from SedonaMedium.com Welcome. We have so much goodness to talk about with the quality time. Love Language, and I think very similar to gifts is it can be a little bit deceiving what quality time really is. So we're going to break all of that down and talk about how you can have quality time with spirit, with your guides, with the divine, and allow that to enrich your sense of connection throughout the day. But before we get into that, I'm wondering if you have been feeling what I've been feeling recently. So when we had the full moon, April 12, and Venus was shifting as well, there's a lot happening and a lot going on. Right after that happened, I just had this overwhelming inspiration to rearrange art, to move things around, to create new groupings, to use some new colors. And it was really very heightened on one of those days when I had a lot of things to do right, which sometimes it's just inconvenient like that when we get into the flow, the energy is there for something else, instead of what we feel like we should be doing or need to be doing. And what I've learned in those times is to just go with it, like go with where the energy is, because if I'm not going with where the energy is, what will happen is I'll need to be doing these other things, and I'll sit down to do them, and the energy is not there for that. It's there for something else. So you just have to kind of learn to flow and flex. But now, now I'm in that awkward place, you know, I rearranged a bunch of things. I'm in that awkward place where I have this one gorgeous art piece that I just haven't found the perfect place for. So I still have the step ladder sitting out. I have one painting on the floor, and I know I'm going to need to move another one once I figure out where this one goes. And I'm just kind of waiting around until I get that direction. I felt like I got solid direction on everything else, and now I just have to wait for the right timing, so let's hope some direction comes on that sometime in the next day or two, and not the next month, because Robert is not going to love that step ladder being out forever, but I guess we'll see. But it did feel like it was this energy of spring and that new, fresh season energy that was flowing in so much more strongly now that we have gotten out of this big retrograde period of March and April. But also I will note that my Venus retrograde period was very artistic, and I felt really drawn to like beautifying things and creating and a lot of art. So this can also be just that expression of the post shadow period coming into more fullness that now it was moving into Completion. But anyway, I'm curious for you, what you've been feeling since this time, how it showed up for you, if you have been changing things up or rearranging or feeling called to new colors. I'm just curious as to how this has been for you, so let me know. All right, so let's talk about the special love language series that we've been doing. So this is part five of our special series. This is the close of our love language series. And in this series, we've been exploring the five love languages, not just in how they influence our relationship with other people, but in how we experience and express love, in our connection with spirit, with the divine. So I'm sharing some of the nuggets of wisdom that I got from the book God speaks your Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and also my insights as a psychic medium, intuition teacher and energy practitioner. So please listen to episode one that really introduces the topic a lot more fully about what we are talking about here, which is especially important if you are not familiar with the love languages at all. The first episode, we dove into the love language of physical touch. In the second episode, we explored words of affirmation. In Episode 231 we talked about acts of service, and we covered the love language of gifts in episode 232 and this week, we are sharing about the language of. Quality time. So if you aren't familiar with the five love languages, which were first introduced by Dr Gary Chapman, I'll give you a super, super brief synopsis of the concept. So the concept of The Five Love Languages is that they reveal the unique ways that we give and we receive love. So each of us has a natural tendency or a natural preference, whether it's through words, actions, time, touch or gifts, that makes us feel really deeply seen and appreciated. And when we understand our own love language as well as those of the other people around us, we can use that information to create more fulfilling, connected, harmonious relationships. And what we're exploring in this episode is how to apply that understanding to our spiritual connection, to our relationship with the divine. We know that the divine speaks all the love languages, right, but we may feel it best when we are speaking and receiving love in our own natural, preferred love language. So in this series, we're looking at what practices can help you more fully dive into expressing this language and getting the benefits of that in your spiritual life. Or for those who want to more fluently speak the many different languages without being limited to one or two languages. You, of course, are very welcome here too. We want to be fluent in all the love languages, ultimately, and understand them, because it impacts our co workers and who we're in very close relationships with our collaborators, the friendships that we have, the family relationships. You know, it's generally a very mixed bag. So learning how to, you know, express these and understand their deeper meanings really can help us create more compassion, empathy, express ourselves with love and kindness. So let's focus now on the energy of quality time, quality time. Love Language is all about being fully there, like really there with someone you care about. So it's putting the phone down, it's making eye contact and letting everything else just sort of fade into the background, so the two of you can just be together and see where that takes you. When you think about quality time, a lot of people associate this with dates and making dates a priority, but for people with this love language, it isn't so much about what specifically you're doing together. It does not have to be fancy or elaborate. Sometimes the most meaningful moments happen during a simple walk together, or that time of sitting together as a family at the dinner table and actually talking to each other. The thing that really wrecks the vibe for quality time people is two things, I think, lots of distractions, and also in authenticity. So when you're with a quality time love language person, if your phone or your watch is going off like crazy with notifications, that is not quality time. If you are talking to them while answering an email, that is not quality time. If you are watching TV over their shoulder instead of talking to them, that is not quality time. And on the path of inauthenticity. If you aren't really letting them into what's going on with you and you're not really responding to them either, that's not quality time. So for people who speak this love language, time means love, but not all time is quality time. This is very important to understand about this love language, not all time is quality time, okay, so you can think, well, I'm watching TV together with my partner, and this is the show that they like and the show that they enjoy. This is me giving them quality time, not so much, because the focus in that moment is on the TV show, not necessarily in the connection between you and the other person. So it's not about how long you spend together, it's about the heart that's behind it, the energy. So when you give someone your full attention, it speaks to them. It says you matter to me. I see you. I'm connected with you. I like to think of this love language as the equivalent of a soul gazing level of intimacy. There is nothing a Quality Time Person dislikes more than platitudes or surface level stuff. They're just always ready, I think, for that deep dive. And can get a little bit offended or even hurt if you aren't meeting them exactly where they're. At so maybe they're asking you questions about your day and wanting to go a little bit deeper about it and feel like they're being present with what you experienced. And you're just like, Oh, it's fine. It was no big deal. Well, how was your lunch? It was good. There's no connection to be had there. And that can be very frustrating for someone with this love language, because they're really looking for more of that intimacy and sharing presence with you. So spiritually, the love language of quality time is all about presence as being a devotional act. So it's the very essence that's behind meditation, prayer. Ceremony or rituals. It's the reason why people go on retreats or go on a pilgrimage, not just to get away, but to also be with the divine uninterrupted. It's why we sit in silence. It's why we light a candle and just listen, creating that sense of presence. Many ancient spiritual traditions teach that the divine doesn't just want our offerings or our blind obedience, it wants our presence, our heart, our real, undivided, true attention, and when we give that, whether that's to God, to spirit, the earth, to another person, there's a holy exchange that's happening. There's a deeper level of connection. And we're saying, you matter. I'm here with you. I see you, and not just I see you, but like I see your heart and your spirit, and I feel that inner connection. It's a beautiful love language. So if this is your love language, your soul might crave not just connection, but sacred attention. So you're going to feel closest to the Divine when you are unplugged and tuned in like really tuned in energetically, quality time at its core. Teaches us one of the most important spiritual truths, that presence is a part of love, and when we offer our presence fully, whether to spirit or another soul. It changes us. It shifts us. It creates this strong energy. And I think that this love language comes with some really modern challenges. So much time in our lives is taken up with work. We have this culture that's very based on demanding people's attention all the time. Flashy screens. We have bright colors. We have commercials like social media is trying to gamify your experience and manipulate your dopamine so that you stay stuck in that Doom scroll. It's just constant notifications and expected availability all the time. So if you have this love language, or someone you love does just remember that it requires a lot of boundaries to safeguard your time and to safeguard your attention, considering that that is of utmost importance to you, and you may feel very guarded or protective of your time. Now let's explore this more from the spiritual side. So in the spiritual sense, quality time, love language can be experienced more directly in six ways. So let's start with number one. The first one is hiking, or nature walks. There is something magical that's happening when we are connecting with spirit out in nature, that life force, energy is so strong, the spirit is very palpable. For you, it could look like taking a walk in the woods. Maybe you're strolling on a Lakeshore or just going somewhere you know, is away from everyone and everything else. Here in Sedona, I try and find the trails that nobody knows about and spend time there. The beauty of nature is that it really offers us a chance to be still and to be present. So when we are walking or just spending time in nature without distractions, we're creating the space inside of ourselves for that divine connection. Nature has an amazing way of helping us tap into those deeper selves, to feel that flow of love and energy that's all around us, and all of that life force is so rejuvenating and healing. So next time you're out for a walk, think of it as maybe not just exercise time, or let's see what's around the corner time, but it can be a time of. Real communion and connection. All right, let's look at number two spiritual retreats. If you've ever felt like you've been craving some time to just please, let me be with spirit. A spiritual retreat might be exactly what you're looking for a few days, just away from schedules and all the notices and you know, demands on your time, all that hustle and bustle being surrounded or supported by stillness and nature, dedicating your time to spiritual things like prayer, reflection, maybe it's creative practices like art that help you connect intuitively and deepening your spiritual practice. So whether it's you're taking a weekend at a meditation center, maybe you're challenging yourself in a big way with a silent retreat, or you're doing a guided weekend of reflection, spiritual retreats give you the space to reconnect with yourself and with spirit in a way that it can be hard to get fully in the day to day when we're in and out of the flow of life and in and out of our practice. And I know that signing up for a retreat may not work with your budget right now, but there are plenty of ways to create your own private spiritual retreat. You can go camping. You can go somewhere private to write and reflect, or if you know a bunch of spiritually inclined friends, you can rent an Airbnb. Split the cost, everyone lead a special experience for the group. I think that pre made retreat experiences can be incredible for accountability, for taking things like food preparation and effort off of your plate, but you can create a retreat that adapts to your needs. So if you have the discipline to follow through and really make it a retreat, it can be an amazing experience. So I mentioned this only because there's lots of excuses why people don't make the time for themselves. But if this is your love language, I urge you to try it, to make it a priority to regularly find retreat time. So if you need some inspiration, we do have an episode about creating your own spiritual retreat, which is episode 93 which can guide you. So definitely check that out. If you're needing a little bit of extra support, or maybe you've never been to a retreat and you want to think about starting on creating your own experience first, all. Right, so number one is hiking, your nature walks, two spiritual retreats. Number three is meditation. So meditation is one of the most powerful tools for spiritual communion in the quiet space of meditation is when we drop into deeper connection with the Divine. It invites clarity, peace and insight, and it doesn't have to be complicated even a few minutes of focused breathing, just clearing your mind or repeating a mantra, can open up a channel for spirit to speak, and the best part is meditation can happen anywhere. It can be in your bedroom, in nature. It can be even in the middle of your busy day. You can find a way to bring that practice into your life, it's an invitation to be present and to listen and to receive, make sure that you're receiving divine guidance. One of the things I think about with my day is that every morning, my ego self wakes up and it gets out of bed and it gets moving, and until I've done some form of spiritual connection work, I haven't woken my divine self up yet. I'm still asleep as far as my consciousness is concerned. So meditation is one of those powerful ways to touch that pure side of ourselves that's accessible when we just take the time to connect. So number four is not for everyone. I am fully aware of this. However, it's very fitting for this love language monastic orders or forms of contemplative living. So for those who feel called to really live a life of deeper level of devotion and reflection. Monastic orders connecting at the ashram or spaces that allow you to focus on contemplative living offer a way to really live fully in tune with spirit, usually it involves focusing on silence and prayer and reflection in community with people of the same values, and the focus being this very uninterrupted time and focus with the divine. So it's a life that's really dedicated to spiritual truth, to growth with a structured schedule, usually of. Of prayer and devotional, work and stillness. Now, not everyone, like I said, is called to join some monastic order or live at the ashram, but we can all draw inspiration from that way of life by making sure that we're setting aside intentional time for quiet, for reflection inside of our own homes, in our own space, bringing some of that value in. Additionally, I'd say that in the local area, I was connected with a retreat center, where I would often bring people in for retreats or take people on experiences. On the land, there's beautiful, sacred, sacred energy, and I loved sharing it with other people. And what I noticed was that the people who worked there, some of them lived there, some of them didn't. They were so exposed to these spiritual practices and challenging themselves to really fully live that vibration, in how they carried themselves, in how they expressed themselves, in how they did meetings. It was really creating this beautiful new way of living. And so even though that wasn't a, you know, monastic order or within the ashram, it was the energy being very similar of this collective group, working together inspired and helping each other in their spiritual growth and staying accountable to one another. For that, it's certainly an environment that's not for everyone, but people could really shift and change a lot in short periods of time, because they were staying in the frequency and staying in the vibration that they were choosing to embody actively. And while we don't always need outside influences to regulate or determine what our internal vibration and internal state is in those delicate places where we are creating ourselves, where we are aligning with an energy. It can be helpful to be supported in that process as we do so. Of course, these days you have to be careful with different kinds of communities and just a word of general safety. You know, there are certainly lots of spiritual and religious cults. I've seen a few of those come and go here in the Sedona area, and they can be extremely destructive and leave a lot of harm in their wake. And so anytime you're thinking about joining a community or connecting, and, you know, being supported more in some form of contemplative living. It's very important for you also to research warning signs of cults and cult leaders as well, to make sure that you feel very solid. You're aware of those red flags, and you're really making a healthy decision for yourself, and you're knowing what moves the needle to where it goes from a healthy, supportive environment to something that is unhealthy, parasitic or dangerous. I'd be remiss if I didn't say all of that. All right, so let's move on to number five, rituals and ceremonies. Rituals are a powerful way to create sacred moments with spirit you're creating them so these can be as simple as lighting a candle while saying a prayer, creating sacred space in your home, engaging in seasonal rituals that connect you with the cycles of nature. Ceremonies just help mark important moments. Also in our spiritual journey, they invite us to slow down and be present. So ritual or ceremony can always be very complex. It can be complex like a puja, or it can be a lovely Full Moon ceremony. It can be a simple gratitude ritual, whatever resonates with you and reflects your personal spiritual connection. So these sacred acts create space for uninterrupted time with spirit that can deepen our sense of connection, and can be really restorative, and they can be so much fun because they connect with our, you know, natural preferences. It can be very artistic. It can be incredibly creative. It can be personal to your practice. People who connect with herbalism, for example, may have specific tea ceremonies that help them create this sense of presence, ritual and process that allows them to come into their heart in a deeper way. I mean, there's so many ways, depending on what your natural connections are, that you can. Take that a little bit deeper, and rituals and ceremonies can be a lot of fun. Number six is pilgrimages, like walking the Camino. A pilgrimage is a journey with spiritual significance. So a walk that becomes an act of devotion, obviously a very extended walk, okay? A pilgrimage, you know, is a real act of dedication and devotion. One of the most well known examples is the Camino de Santiago, which is a centuries old pilgrimage across Spain and also parts of France that take walkers through beautiful landscapes. But while this is happening, they're reflecting praying, they're communing with spirit. They're processing things that need to be processed. They're healing on deeper levels. But pilgrimages offer an opportunity to disconnect from everyday life, to focus completely and solely on your spiritual journey, and while walking these long distances, you have time to really listen, time to pay attention to the things that you have been repressing or ignoring. You don't have to travel far for a pilgrimage, so you don't have to just pack up and get a flight to Spain. Today, there's a book by Sonia Choquette called walking home, which is her experience with walking the Camino de Santiago, and she was also, at that time, wrestling with this bigger healing of her heart and her relationship and her life and the process. It's a good read if you're interested in what this kind of pilgrimage looks like, and also the challenges of taking on true pilgrimage. So we think of pilgrimages as being specifically to sacred sites, but you know, Great Spirit is everywhere, so you can really make it your own, similar to what we talked about within the spiritual retreat. You can hike parts of the Appalachian Trail, or hike in the Grand Canyon, but what I think is important is that a pilgrimage has a mind over matter element. It's difficult to do, and we have to overcome our ego selves to accomplish it and to receive those big rewards. So a pilgrimage can be, for a lot of people, a real turning point, it can bring up memories and insights that end up guiding them for the rest of their lives. So if you need a really big jolt out of the way your life is moving right now, maybe you should look into planning a pilgrimage and trying to understand what that might involve for you, but I definitely recommend the book walking home. It certainly gives a nice clear picture about some of the discomforts of that and also some of the rewards of it as well. So I like to share some of the different dialects that Dr Chapman speaks about in the God speaks your love language book. So for the quality time love language, he talks about that for some people, having a daily ritual might be hard for you to maintain. So he suggests, for those people, if you really struggle with that, creating a weekly commitment that you're really devoted to, that can work for this love language, too. So in his book, he talks about a woman who takes a few hours out of her work day once a week for connection time. And I think being able to do that for those that aren't entrepreneurs or have flex time would be very difficult for most people to be able to accomplish, but you could create a weekly commitment that helps you to set the tone to be accountable to some spiritual time for yourself. So register for a weekly yoga class, buy the package, the commitment and go or buy the classes up front. Research a drum circle group, take a meditation class, something that makes you carve out time for yourself and sets you in the right energy. Because chances are, you're probably giving a lot of your time to other people, to your relationships, and to your family and to the people who need you, and you have to interrupt that to be able to redirect some of that love in that time to the divine. So odds are, once you commit to some sort of a weekly practice, that once you get into that feeling of connection, once you go to the class, or you lay in savasana, or you're drumming in the group, you're gonna want to do even more of what helps you to feel in the flow. And so the class will just be a starting point to interrupt you, to shake you out of your routine and to get you into that, oh yeah, this feels really good mode. So. So that that way you continue your practice. But accountability is big here, and forcing yourself to go when you feel occupied and you get into that hustle and bustle distraction mode, you just gotta be like, nope. I reserve this time for myself, and I have a personal tip for people with this love language. Also, I cannot say this more directly. Get yourself a Do Not Disturb door hanger. It is so hard when you have this love language, and you are deep in your practice, you're feeling really connected, and suddenly someone is yelling at you from across the house, or someone walks in with clean laundry and wants to fold it on the bed while you're meditating. No, just no. So communicate. Use signals. A Sound Machine is great, a Do Not Disturb hanger to just safeguard that state of being for yourself for as much as possible. So when you do, carve that time out when you're in Your devotional practice, you aren't being kind of shaken out in that attention gets redirected to other things. So now moving forward, now that we understand some of the ins and outs of this love language and how it can impact us spiritually, I'd love for you to take a moment and just reflect on this question, what is getting my attention right now? And how can I make sure what is getting my attention is worthy of it? So this week, I challenge you to practice presence, to reclaim your time in ways that really resonate with you. Maybe it's establishing some new micro practices and interrupting your doom scrolling routine. Maybe it's turning off some of your notifications if you have a smart watch or if you have a smartphone. Maybe it's enabling more routines that involve Do Not Disturb on your phone, or just turning it off, or ensuring that phones don't come to game night or they're not coming to the dinner table. But I challenge you to really think about I'm reclaiming your presence. You're reclaiming your attention. So whatever resonates with you, I encourage you to really engage with that energy of presence this week, notice where your attention naturally flows and choose to show up fully for those moments. When it comes to the quality time love language, we can get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life that we forget, we forget to slow down to truly be with the people that we love and with spirit and offering uninterrupted presence is just one of the most sacred gifts you can give. It's not just about physically being there, it's being mentally, emotionally, spiritually engaged in the moment. It is holding space. When we invest our time with intention and love, the spiritual energy that flows from it becomes far more powerful. All right. Thank you for sharing with me today and spending some of your time, your attention, your love and your awareness with me and of course, if you know people whose primary love language is quality time, I encourage you to share this episode with them, let them know that there is so much more depth and beauty to explore within their love language. I have really enjoyed going through this series, I have learned so much myself from spirit, from their intuitive direction and guidance and understanding how this affects us on a spiritual level, I have just learned a lot. I hope that you have learned a lot in this series as well, and that you've had the chance to listen to each of these episodes and relate them to your loved ones as well. I would really love to hear your thoughts and your insights about this love language series and about your love language so you can share those with me on Instagram at Sedona medium or on Facebook at Sedona medium. I would love to hear more about your experience and what some of your big takeaways, and maybe how that has impacted how you are moving forward as well. And I would love it if you would take a moment if you've enjoyed this series, if you would rate us and leave us a review wherever you are listening that helps us so much to be able to share this message with other people and to fulfill our work to fulfill our soul calling as well. All right, everyone, have a wonderful week. Thank you for sharing this incredible series with me, sending so much love and light to each of you. Have a great week. Many blessings. The

Robert Wooten: 36:36

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