Why the Question You Ask Spirit Matters More Than the Answer #254

It's time to get conscious about the types of questions you're asking in intuitive work or in readings. Ever noticed that some questions seem to never bring you lasting peace...even when you get an answer?  Maybe it feels good for a moment but then the doubt creeps in and you find yourself seeking reassurance again?

This episode is an eye-opening conversation about why the questions you ask Spirit shape your entire experience.  Some questions keep you stuck in fear, doubt, or mental spirals, while others will open the door to connection and real insight.

Learn how to identify if your conversations with Spirit are allowing Spirit to work their magic with you or if you are limiting the convo.

This episode is especially for you if you find yourself asking the same questions over and over, feel frustrated when answers don’t bring relief, want to communicate with Spirit in a way that feels clearer and more supportive, or are learning to trust your intuition without spiraling.

We also share how to flip the script by shifting a question from fear-based to insight-based.

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Christina Wooten helps you access the wisdom and support of the Spirit World to elevate your life.
She is a Certified Psychic Medium and Reiki Master Teacher.  Christina is the owner of Sedona Medium and co-host of Modern Life and Spirit podcast.

She offers Psychic Medium Readings, Soul Readings, and teaches how you can start communicating and receiving messages from your Spirit Guides - through her program.
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Transcript

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Christina, welcome to the Modern Life and Spirit Podcast where we explore spiritual topics relevant to today's world. Your hosts, certified psychic medium Christina Wooten and Reiki master teacher Robert Wooten, break down how to work with spirit to create more positive growth in your life. Consider this podcast your go to spiritual resource for navigating the modern world.

Christina Wooten: 1:16

Hey there, kinderd spirits. Welcome back to Modern Life and Spirit Podcast. I'm Christina Wooten, certified psychic medium at SedonaMedium.com I am so glad to be back from our December break. Happy New Year to each of you. I hope that you just welcome this time, welcome the opportunities that are available to you, not just at the beginning of the year, but really, every moment that we have, there are so many opportunities and possibilities and beautiful energy that is being sent to us from the spirit world, and the more that we can be present to receive it at all times, not just be extra receptive to the new year, I think that we can really receive at the highest levels and come back to things really recharge. So I am glad to be here with you again. I am coming back to our fifth year of podcasting, being very recharged, back ready to teach, ready to share, giving voice to the spirit world. And I'm glad that you're here. Thank you for being here. I know that your guides are happy to have you here as well, because it just means that hopefully you'll use these tools and information to deepen your relationship with them. Today, we are going to dive into how to elevate your communications with your spirit guide, so how to really focus in and dial in and be clear on your energy so that you're expressing yourself to the highest level, and also you can use this as additional insight into what's really going on. So we're going to be talking about in this level of communication or exchange that we have with our guides, more about deepening the questions that you have for them. So a lot of sensitive people and people who feel connected or drawn to the other side ask spirit questions quite a bit that can be, you know, all day long, maybe silently or internally, you are asking them questions as you go throughout the day. Maybe it's in dedicated time that you have with your spirit guides, or other times when you're just driving or doing the dishes, or, you know, your chores that don't need a whole lot of brain power, and you find you're kind of wandering in other places, or you could be connecting in other ways, like maybe you're having a reading for example, and you're thinking about what kind of questions you might use spirit's advice or guidance or direction on and of course, that can always be really helpful, because it gives spirit a focus for your session. The types of questions that you ask and how you communicate with spirit is important to how valuable the information will be to you from a big picture perspective. So I want to start before we dive into things too deeply, in just saying that we're talking about refinement here and elevating the quality of the questions that you're asking. Spirit, right? But please note there are really no wrong questions that you can ask your guides. Your guides are always going to want you to just focus on natural, loving, meaningful, connected communication with them and allow that to evolve. So more than anything, I don't want this to be an excuse for you overthinkers To start to over censor yourself, or get you know overwhelmed so you start kind of shutting down that communication, rather than being natural in the process. But it's an important invitation to deepen this work, to ask yourself, what am I really needing when I ask these questions, what on a deeper level am I seeking? Because that's going to be important in truly meeting the need that you have from a bigger picture perspective. But more than anything, there's no true wrong questions that you can ask. You're never going to get in trouble with your guides for talking to them? So I hope that that stays always first and foremost in your mind while we just talk about refinement. For the purposes of this podcast, I'm going to be dividing the questions into two primary categories. Yes. So one are fear based questions, and the other one is insight based questions. And we want to bring more discernment to what does it mean when we start to notice that more fear based questions are coming up? And how to when we find that we're asking a lot of fear based questions. How to convert that to bring more insight from our guides, instead of feeding into something we might be fixated on from an ego perspective. So let's talk first about fear based questions. What exactly does that mean? So fear based question is that when you look underneath the question, so when you peel back the layer on not just the surface of what it is that you're asking, but you peel it back, what's the emotion that is sitting there? What's what's really behind it? So some examples of fear based questions would be, is something bad going to happen? Am I off of my path? Why am I struggling so much? Is this bad thing about to happen to me? Insert whatever catastrophic idea you have in the moment that's really causing you anxiety or stress or nervousness. So those are some examples. When we peel it back, what we're really looking for a lot of times, is some sort of reassurance. We're wanting the answer, but the answer isn't really the solution. What we're really wanting is to know and to feel inside that sense of trust, that sense of peace, that sense of hope on the inside. So we're asking for reassurance on a deeper level, and it's a lot of times saying that something is feeling a little bit off on some level, we're needing to feel a little bit more grounded. Maybe we're feeling very overwhelmed, or we're feeling stressed by some of the changes that are happening in our lives, or feeling like we're having trouble keeping up with things that are shifting and starting to feel a little insecure or a little bit stressed or overwhelmed, or it could be letting us know we need to bring our attention more inward, to do some work that this is an invitation that we we need to do some deeper levels of spiritual work, to work on that sense of trust and peace and allowance and connection that We have with spirit that we can handle whatever is in our path, that we can find a way and a direction forward if we're truly present, if we're listening and we're allowing our spirit and our soul to lead so fear based questions, they can be urgent or looping. So what I mean by looping is you notice that you keep asking the same type of thing. So maybe you're literally asking the same question over and over and over again. Maybe you're asking different people different mediums. Maybe you are, you know, asking your guides every few days the same and they're answering you. But no matter what you just keep asking fear based questions are usually very future fixated. So instead of it being now and being very present in the moment where our power is, it's really what's getting ready to happen. So it's very focused or centric and future stuff underneath. It's about like seeking certainty or security or control. So usually control issues are in there. When we're asking those questions, it's like, I need all these information so that I can control the outcome. I can control the situation. I can manipulate things that will somehow be to my benefit, and you'll also notice with fear based questions, that your body is giving you a lot of signals as well. So maybe it's really tight, or it's things are feeling very heavy, or you're feeling very restless, but your body is giving you some indications that things are a little bit dysregulated for you. And you might be thinking just to yourself, I just need to know this so that I can relax. If I just know XYZ, I can relax. But what you'll find is that even if you get an answer to the question, regardless of what the answer, a lot of times you just there's something inside that still doesn't feel satisfied. You're still kind of looking outward, because you're just not feeling centered and peaceful inside. And what that's telling us, on a big picture level, is it's not about the answer. We're seeking the answer. We're seeking that reassurance. We're seeking that connection. So that's, you know, sometimes it's about that control or the fear. Of the unknown, but really what the signal is coming through our system is saying I need to feel more at peace with the things that are shifting around me. I need to feel more of a sense of regulation in my body. I need to feel more connected through this time of shift or change. So it's an invitation that there's deeper work that we need to move into self soothing, that we need to move into validating how we're feeling, and starting to do the inner work that's being asked of us. Now let's talk about the second category of questions. So this is where the like, real good, juicy stuff is when we are communicating with our spirit guides. This is where we're really diving into curiosity. We're asking for insight. We're asking for deeper levels of understanding, and you'll find with these types of questions that you're not as emotionally driven. There's maybe not that same sense of urgency, of looping, of I need to know the answer right this moment, maybe you're feeling really open to multiple outcomes. You're less attached to things. You're feeling into the possibilities. You're allowing all of these things to come into your awareness so that you can deepen your understanding. It's coming from a place of curiosity rather than demand. I need to know the answer so I can relax. That's a very demanding type of energy. Instead it's saying I'm open. I want to understand. Show me that is a really different energy. And the body, instead of feeling tense, stressed, tight, heavy, feels more spacious. It can feel very neutral or just generally alert. So more of a spacious, open feeling is reflecting that you're asking more of an insight driven question. Some examples of insight driven questions might be what's asking for my attention right now? Or what is this experience inviting me to learn what would support me the most in this moment? Or what is the area of life where I can have the most impact right now? So there's a real openness, where your guides can bring in different levels of understanding, depending on where they're meeting you at where you are, vibrationally, they'll generally come to you right? So when you have an open ended question like this, that isn't so centric and focused on, is this about to happen? Is this big, scary thing going to occur, or is everything going to be fine? When we're open, we can allow different information to come to us. Insight driven questions are more relational in nature. So it's more like you are having a real conversation with your spirit guide. So there's an openness to that. You're going to invite dialog instead of just asking or demanding reassurance, which unfortunately, usually when we're in that fear based energy, it isn't satisfied. You know, even if you have the answer, you're still going to be asking or feeling uncertain, feeling restless, feeling that discomfort, right? Insight, driven questions create more space for nuance, for different levels of teaching that your guides might bring in. So your guides, sometimes somebody will ask a question in a reading. What I'm always fascinated about is that the guides will a lot of times, take it in a place or a direction that I would have never expected. They're like, well, here's what I want to share about this situation, but it's connected to all of this. And then there's a grand teaching that comes with that. And if we don't have room for it, or space to receive that if we haven't allowed mental, emotional space, space within our body to integrate information, our guides kind of recognize we're not in that space for, you know, a higher elevated teaching. We're going to be in that space where, you know, there's panic happening, there's panic mode. They're probably not going to teach that higher level of direction and understanding when we're not able to receive it. So it really allows you to get a higher level of understanding of integration and lessons from the spirit world. And really, those lessons are incredibly valuable. Valuable, because that's what leads to the cultivation of deeper wisdom. So let's talk about how to make a shift. So if you have a fear based question and you want to be more open, you're recognizing that you know where you're going to get the most value is going to be turning that fear based question into an insight based one, so that you can be open and you can be receptive. And this isn't just about the question itself, because we also really need to change our energy of receptivity. When we ask those types of questions, we are usually more closed off, like I've talked about, and so we need to also shift the energy to being more receptive, more open to the possibility. So we need to kind of do both of those things at the same time. But as far as the question is concerned, maybe you have a fear based question like, why isn't spirit answering? Me, what's going on? Why aren't you guys talking to me? And there's this upset, emotional disturbance, this urgency, the stress, right? Those are all good hallmarks of like, Oh, we're in, we're in some fear based questioning. So we might shift that from Why isn't spirit answering me to what might help me to feel more supported right now. So it's taking the deeper need of acknowledging, like I'm not feeling supported, and addressing what the deeper need really is. The deeper need is emotionally I'm not feeling supported. How can I address this? What is going to help me to address the real need. So it takes that shift from Why aren't you doing this to what do I need to do to meet that need on a deeper level? I mean, those are very, very different energies, right? The bottom line is you don't need to stop asking questions we always want to ask our spirit guides what comes up, what comes naturally from our hearts and be communicative. That's really important, but we want to bring consciousness to it, and just changing how we ask, recognizing that we're probably asking questions that have a lot of weight to them sometimes, and if we can unpack that weight, we can really get to what the true need is and start to ask more valuable questions that address what the real need actually is, and not stay on the surface level, which is where that fear based stuff likes to hang out. Is surface stuff, and not really getting into the nitty gritty of what's really going on, which is where our guides would love to meet us. They can help us in both spaces, right? But they can really do that deeper work when we are inviting them in to help us on the deeper level, and we're recognizing and acknowledging that we need help on that deeper level, or we need more support. So when you are talking to your guides with these questions, maybe you're making a list, or maybe you are just organically, you know, firing off some questions to your guides. Check in with yourself, you know, ask yourself, What does my body feel like as I ask this, that's going to be a huge clue. Does it feel like there's a weight? Do things feel tired? Do they feel heavy, restless, uncomfortable? That's going to tell you, ooh, we're kind of out of we're out of receptive mode. So there's definitely something there that we want to shift. And then the second question that I want to encourage you to ask yourself, as you're asking questions of your guides, is, am I asking this to feel safe, or am I asking this to understand because you're if you're asking to feel safe, there's probably a deeper need that really needs to be met, and we want to unpack that on another level. And of course, both of those needs are valid. Both of them are fair. It's part of our humanity right to just we're managing a lot. We're going to be functioning back and forth between all of these levels, depending on where you are. It helps us to know what kind of support we need to give ourselves. So if we're in that fear based place, maybe we're asking for more soothing. Maybe we're asking for more practices that help us to feel calm in the midst of the storm. Maybe we're asking for deeper work that we need to do internally. But it is about listening to yourself while you ask these things that will help you to understand what you might be needing right now in this moment. If this resonated with you, I would really encourage you to check out one of our episodes. It's is it my intuition or just my emotions talking? That is episode number two. 228, is it my intuition or just my emotions talking that is really helpful in just general discernment when you do have an intuitive impression, is it actually an intuitive impression, or are you feeling and sensing things that might be coming from anxiety or something else? So if you are finding yourself asking a lot of fear based questions, or feeling uncertain about whether your questions are coming from that place or more insight oriented, you'll probably find this episode helpful as well. Before we end this episode completely, I do want to invite you if you are interested in learning more about deeper levels of healing, if you've been wanting to raise your vibration, to assist you with more of your communication with the spirit world, if you've wanted to balance your chakras to really work on deepening your connection with your third eye, opening your energy, so that you can be not only in a healthy place, but you can amplify Your energy, which will assist in your deeper levels of communication. Reiki is a wonderful pathway for that. For a lot of people, it's like this real opening that occurs between you and your intuition when you have this vibration, and you really integrate it and bring it into your life. So I am teaching Reiki classes. We have all of our schedule set for 2026 I'll be teaching two Reiki one and two classes for people who are beginners. You start there, and then I'm teaching two master classes throughout the year. I'd love to have you join us for one of those classes, the March Reiki one and two class has only one spot left. So if you would like to join us, go ahead and sign up. Now is the time to do it before that is full. But we would love to have you join us for one of these in person connections. You can find out more information on my Sedona Reiki classes at SedonaMedium.com All right, everyone, I'm so glad to be back. I'm sending you so much love, so much positive energy, and I hope that the next week supports you in your communications with your guides. All right, everyone, talk to you soon.

Robert Wooten: 23:01

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